This is the 2nd part to my 7 tips to feel calmer series. This post contains useful tips to help you with your anxiety and feel calmer.
For Many People, Trauma and painful events are often what is behind their anxiety
Traumatic events in our lives, whilst painful, can be overcome incredibly quickly. I use cutting edge, power techniques to help people everyday to let go of and overcome painful and traumatic memories and thoughts that have often haunted them for many years.
As those of you who have been my client over the past years will agree, we can achive so much in such a short amount of time.
PUT THAT PHONE DOWN!
Yes, put your phone down. Research has suggested that the average person checks and looks at their mobile phone, 5 to 10 times an hour.
Checking social media, emails, texts, whats app messages, just encourages anxiety. We still continue to look at our phones, even though lots of people recognise the problems of feeling insecure that social media gives us.
But I believe, the actual fact of checking your mobile phone contributes to anxiety. We all need to be able to live with uncertaintly. Every single time we check our phones, we are being ruled by anxiety.
Good happy hormones are released whenever we say or do nice things. When we become axnious and stressed we often just concertate our thoughts on ourselves and the anxiety makes the thought of interacting with other people very hard work and almost impossible.
Its been proven that just saying Thank you, is such a powerful gesture. It has a dual meaning, it makes the person receiveing the praise and thanks, feel good. But also it makes us feel great too as it is strengthens our connections in our brain and makes us feel part of the world and community.
So give it a try, maybe there is someone you need to thank. Maybe its long overdue. Say Thank you.
Make your achievement list
Its so easy as the end of the day to think about all the things we didn’t achieve. This then weighs heavy on us and confirms all the negative misconceptions we have about ourselves.
So make your own achievement list.
Devote just 5 mintues at the end of each and every day to make a list of 10 things you have achiveed today. We ar ethen learning to manage our happiness and success and ignore our failures. These things dont have to be huge, they can be anything you did today.
At this point you are thinking to yourself you didnt achive much today?
But you did, you achieved 100’s and more. Really think back and make your achivement list.
This tip is also great to do with children and young people.
This is an extra tip for you.
Banjo. Bang a Nasty Job Off
When we avioud thigs we hate doing, it just creates stress and axiety. When we refain from doing things we hate, this just grows this anxiety and it becomes bigger and bigger and we avioud more and more things we should do.
I believe its best to get bad things out of the way. Banjo.
There are probably tasks that you need to do and complete, that have been lingering for a long time. Some maybe very minor and others more complicated and challenging.
Pick one of them and do it.
Then do one more of them.
Its amaxing how good you feel when you get the nasty horrible bad thinsg ovr and done with, its like a weight of off your shoulders.
“If it’s your job to eat a frog, it’s best to do it first thing in the morning. And If it’s your job to eat two frogs, it’s best to eat the biggest one first.” – Mark Twain